net: hold netdev instance lock during queue operations

For the drivers that use queue management API, switch to the mode where
core stack holds the netdev instance lock. This affects the following
drivers:
- bnxt
- gve
- netdevsim

Originally I locked only start/stop, but switched to holding the
lock over all iterations to make them look atomic to the device
(feels like it should be easier to reason about).

Reviewed-by: Eric Dumazet <edumazet@google.com>
Cc: Saeed Mahameed <saeed@kernel.org>
Signed-off-by: Stanislav Fomichev <sdf@fomichev.me>
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20250305163732.2766420-6-sdf@fomichev.me


Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>