xfs: confirm dotdot target before replacing it during a repair

xfs_dir_replace trips an assertion if you tell it to change a dirent to
point to an inumber that it already points at.  Look up the dotdot entry
directly to confirm that we need to make a change.

Signed-off-by: Darrick J. Wong <djwong@kernel.org>
Reviewed-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>