md: don't fail action_store() if sync_thread is not registered

MD_RECOVERY_RUNNING will always be set when trying to register a new
sync_thread, however, if md_start_sync() turns out to do nothing,
MD_RECOVERY_RUNNING will be cleared in this case. And during the race
window, action_store() will return -EBUSY, which will cause some
mdadm tests to fail. For example:

The test 07reshape5intr will add a new disk to array, then start
reshape:

mdadm /dev/md0 --add /dev/xxx
mdadm --grow /dev/md0 -n 3

And add_bound_rdev() from mdadm --add will set MD_RECOVERY_NEEDED,
then during the race windown, mdadm --grow will fail.

Fix the problem by waiting in action_store() during the race window,
fail only if sync_thread is registered.

Signed-off-by: Yu Kuai <yukuai3@huawei.com>
Signed-off-by: Song Liu <song@kernel.org>
Link: https://lore.kernel.org/r/20240611132251.1967786-8-yukuai1@huaweicloud.com