net: drop rtnl_lock for queue_mgmt operations

All drivers that use queue API are already converted to use
netdev instance lock. Move netdev instance lock management to
the netlink layer and drop rtnl_lock.

Signed-off-by: Stanislav Fomichev <sdf@fomichev.me>
Reviewed-by: Mina Almasry. <almasrymina@google.com>
Link: https://patch.msgid.link/20250311144026.4154277-4-sdf@fomichev.me


Signed-off-by: Jakub Kicinski <kuba@kernel.org>