nvme.h: add struct nvme_host_mem_buf_desc and HMB flags

Signed-off-by: Christoph Hellwig <hch@lst.de>
Reviewed-by: Keith Busch <keith.busch@intel.com>
Reviewed-by: Sagi Grimberg <sagi@grimberg.me>
Reviewed-by: Johannes Thumshirn <jthumshirn@suse.de>