btrfs: selftests: add delayed ref self test cases

The recent fix for a stupid mistake I made uncovered the fact that we
don't have adequate testing in the delayed refs code, as it took a
pretty extensive and long running stress test to uncover something that
a unit test would have uncovered right away.

Fix this by adding a delayed refs self test suite.  This will validate
that the btrfs_ref transformation does the correct thing, that we do the
correct thing when merging delayed refs, and that we get the delayed
refs in the order that we expect.  These are all crucial to how the
delayed refs operate.

I introduced various bugs (including the original bug) into the delayed
refs code to validate that these tests caught all of the shenanigans
that I could think of.

Reviewed-by: Boris Burkov <boris@bur.io>
Signed-off-by: Josef Bacik <josef@toxicpanda.com>
Signed-off-by: David Sterba <dsterba@suse.com>